ThiS wEeK

CHARITY IFTAR 2010

VENUE : RUMAH ORANG TUA SERI TANJUNG,KUANG SELANGOR

DATE : 27TH AUGUST 2010 / 17 RAMADHAN 1431

DAY : FRIDAY

TIME : 5 PM TO 10 PM

ORGANIZER : ISLAMIC REVEALED KNOWLEDGE AND HERITAGE STUDENTS' SOCIETY

how to win friends and influence people

** saja nak kongsi buku yang saya dah baca ni...buku ni sgt menarik..byk benda baru yg sy pelajari dari buku ini...

Tajuk : How to Win Friends and Influence People

Bagaimana Memenangi Hati Kawan dan Mempengaruhi Orang Lain

(Edisi Bahasa Melayu)

Oleh : Dale Carnegie

Diterbitkan oleh : PTS PROFESSIONAL Publishing Sdn. Bhd.

** buku ini terbahagi kepada 4 bahagian:

1. teknik-teknik asas menangani manusia

2. enam perkara yang perlu dilakukan supaya orang lain menyukai kita

3. bagaimana memikat orang lain mengikut cara pemikiran kita

4. menjadi pemimpin : bagaimana mengubah sikap orang lain tanpa menyinggung atau membangkitkan kemarahan

** dalam buku ini juga disertakan dengan sebahagian daripada kisah hidup penulis yang berasal dari keluarga miskin. beliau akhirnya menjadi orang yang berjaya dalam kerjayanya.

** untuk berjaya kita mestilah bersungguh-sungguh

**kebiasaannya, untuk berjaya seseorang itu menghadapi pelbagai cabaran sebelum berada di zon selesa..

**slmt membaca..blh cari buku ni di kedai-kedai buku..terbitan PTS PROFESSIONAL Publishing Sdn Bhd...berbaloi!!! hehe :)

U get what U expect

You Get What You Expect

By Dr. Robert Anthony,
Author of "Advanced Formula For Total Success"

Whatever you expect to happen is determined by the thoughts you dwell upon plus the intensity of the emotions behind those thoughts. It is worth repeating that our subconscious does not question the validity of the data we present to it. It merely processes it and attracts to us what we believe to be true.

If we are using imagery to change habit patterns, we must see ourselves acting and reacting the way we want to be in the future. It doesn't matter how we acted today or yesterday.

Once our subconscious gets hold of our new thought, our brain-mind, functioning together through our central nervous system, will take over and we will automatically assume the new behavior patterns. The key is to be able to picture or imagine the end result so vividly that it appears real.

We have learned that our subconscious mind functions in terms of goals or end results. Once the subconscious has accepted an idea, you can absolutely depend upon it to take you to that goal. If we will supply the end results, our subconscious will supply the "how to." It will show us how to reach that end result.

Think of the end results in terms of present possibilities. They must be seen so clearly that they seem real to your brain and nervous system. The ultimate aim of affirmation and visualization is to evoke the feeling that the goal is already achieved.

Feel as though it has already been achieved and your imagery will pull you toward the end result that you desire. Imagine it in as much detail as possible. Keep using the imaging process over and over again for the same goal. In the beginning, don't worry about whether you are putting in enough detail. Every time you visualize you will automatically incorporate more and more detail.

Always put yourself in the picture. See yourself involved in the activities
of your goal. If you do not put yourself in the picture, you may not be in
the end result. Suppose you want a new car - let's say a new BMW. You
visualize the car and faithfully infuse your imagery with emotion, detail
and repetition. And then, all of a sudden, a new BMW comes into your
life. You look out the window of your house and your neighbor is driving
a new BMW! You now have new BMW in your life, but you are not in it!
So, make sure you identify yourself with your goal.

All successful individuals have started with a picture held in their mind.
They visualized and affirmed what they wanted to be, to do and to have.
And then they instructed their subconscious with clarity and repetition.

*** source : my dad

--Wanita--

AURAT WANITA

Aishah R.A berkata bahawa Asma’ Binti Abu Bakar pernah masuk ke rumah Nabi SAW dengan berpakaian tipis, kemudian Nabi memalingkan mukanya sambil berkata ; “ Hai Asma’ ! Sesungguhnya perempuan apabila sudah datang waktu haidnya (sudah baligh) tidak patut dinampakkan badannya, kecuali ini dan ini – sambil menunjukkan muka dan dua tapak tangannya.” (Riwayat Abu Daud)

HIJAB

Hijab ertinya tabir, tirai atau dinding dan digunakan juga dengan ertikata perselindungan wanita di dalam Islam daripada pandangan lelaki ajnabi, yakni yang bukan mahram. Rasulullah SAW telah menerangkan bahawa wanita ialah aurat yang mesti diselindungkan.

Sebagaimana yang sesuai dengan fitrahnya, peranan wanita yang asasi ialah sebagai ibu, pembantu bagi suaminya dan pengasuh serta pendidik bagi anak-anaknya. Lapangan kegiatannya yang terpenting ialah di dalam lingkungan rumahtangga. Dia menolong memperkukuhkan sistem keluarga, sedangkan keluarga itu pula menjadi tapak atau asas bagi masyarakat atau peradaban. Hanya apabila ada hajat atau keperluan dari segi syar’ie sahaja, ia diharuskan keluar rumah, tetapi dengan menjaga peraturan-peraturan dan syarat-syarat tertentu yang ditetapkan oleh Allah di dalam syariatNya.

Wanita-wanita Islam memainkan peranan yang tidak kurang pentingnya daripada lelaki, tetapi banyak di dalam perselindungan. Dengan ini, kemuliaan dan kehormatan mereka terpelihara, lelaki pun terselamat daripada fitnah mereka, yakni terselamat daripada tergoda. Maka kesucian hidup pun dapat dipelihara di dalam masyarakat.

Allah berfirman Surah Annur 30

maksudnya :

30. Katakanlah (Wahai Muhammad) kepada orang-orang lelaki Yang beriman supaya mereka menyekat pandangan mereka (daripada memandang Yang haram), dan memelihara kehormatan mereka. Yang demikian itu lebih suci bagi mereka; Sesungguhnya Allah amat mendalam pengetahuannya tentang apa Yang mereka kerjakan.

Allah berfirman: Surah Annur 31

mafhumnya :

31. dan Katakanlah kepada perempuan-perempuan Yang beriman supaya menyekat pandangan mereka (daripada memandang Yang haram), dan memelihara kehormatan mereka; dan janganlah mereka memperlihatkan perhiasan tubuh mereka kecuali Yang zahir daripadanya; dan hendaklah mereka menutup belahan leher bajunya Dengan tudung kepala mereka; dan janganlah mereka memperlihatkan perhiasan tubuh mereka melainkan kepada suami mereka, atau bapa mereka atau bapa mertua mereka atau anak-anak mereka, atau anak-anak tiri mereka, atau saudara-saudara mereka, atau anak bagi saudara-saudara mereka Yang lelaki, atau anak bagi saudara-saudara mereka Yang perempuan, atau perempuan-perempuan Islam, atau hamba-hamba mereka, atau orang gaji dari orang-orang lelaki Yang telah tua dan tidak berkeinginan kepada perempuan, atau kanak-kanak Yang belum mengerti lagi tentang aurat perempuan; dan janganlah mereka menghentakkan kaki untuk diketahui orang akan apa Yang tersembunyi dari perhiasan mereka; dan bertaubatlah kamu sekalian kepada Allah, Wahai orang-orang Yang beriman, supaya kamu berjaya.

Ayat di atas ini juga melarang wanita-wanita beriman daripada mendedahkan aurat atau perhiasan mereka (sama ada bentuk tubuh atau barang-barang perhiasan yang dipakai seperti gelang) di hadapan orang yang tidak dibolehkan memandang aurat atau hiasan mereka. Aurat wanita adalah seluruh tubuh badan kecuali muka dan tapak tangan.

Perempuan yang beriman dilarang memukul kaki agar diketahui periasan yang mereka sembunyikan, seperti gelang kaki. Para ulama fiqh juga telah menarik kesimpulan secara qiyas bahawa jikalaulah dilarang wanita beriman daripada berbuat demikian, maka suara wanita itu lebih-lebih lagi mendatangkan fitnah kepada lelaki ajnabi daripada bunyi gelang kaki. Pengaruh suara perempuan ke atas hati lelaki memang diakui juga oleh ahli-ahli psikologi moden. Oleh itu, apabila ada keperluan maka janganlah mereka bertutur kepada lelaki ajnabi itu dengan melunakkan suara agar tiada tergoda lelaki yang di dalam hatinya ada penyakit.

Firman Allah SWT : Surah Al Ahzab 32

mafhumnya :

u 32. Wahai isteri-isteri Nabi, kamu semua bukanlah seperti mana-mana perempuan Yang lain kalau kamu tetap bertaqwa. oleh itu janganlah kamu berkata-kata Dengan lembut manja (semasa bercakap Dengan lelaki asing) kerana Yang demikian boleh menimbulkan keinginan orang Yang ada penyakit Dalam hatinya (menaruh tujuan buruk kepada kamu), dan sebaliknya berkatalah Dengan kata-kata Yang baik (sesuai dan sopan).

Sifat-sifat pakaian wanita islam

1. ** Menutup aurat dan perhiasan seperti yang dikehendaki Syara’.

2. ** Pakaian itu janganlah sempi atau ketat sehingga menampakkan bentuk tubuh

3. ** Pakaian itu tidak terlalu nipis

4. ** Pakaian itu tidak menyerupai pakaian lelaki

5. ** Pakaian itu tidak menyerupai pakaian wanita kafir atau musyrik

6. **Pakaian itu bukan untuk bermegah-megah dan menunjuk-nunjuk

7. ** Pakaian itu tidak menarik perhatian

Hukum aurat dan hijab ini ialah untuk memelihara kehormatan, kesucian, dan kemuliaan orang-orang yang beriman, lebih-lebih lagi kaum wanita.

p/s : sedikit perkongsian daripada artikel yang sy dapat..

G-A-R-A-M

Dalam hadis nabi, ada disebutkan tentang garam. "Garam penghulu kepada lauk-pauk."
Betapa garam asalnya dari laut, apabila disejatkan menghasilkan kristal garam. Unsur tanah terdapat di dalamnya kerana dasar laut juga adalah tanah. Sebab itu garam juga diperoleh dari bukit dan dikenal sebagai garam bukit.

Kegunaan garam

1.Membuang busuk ikan. Ikan apabila sudah lama terdedah di darat akan menjadi busuk. Untuk menghilangkan hanyir ini, ikan diredam dalam air garam.

2.Merendam kerang supaya hilang tahinya. Dalam kaedah perubatan Islam, sesuatu perkara yang buruk diubat dengan asalnya. Kerang berasal dari laut, dan garam digunakan untuk meneutralkan keburukannya (tahi).
3.Mengurang tahap kemasinan ikan masin. Ikan kering yang terlalu masin boleh dikurangkan kadar kemasinannya dengan merendam dalam air garam juga.

4.Mengubat ghout. Ghout disebabkan pemakanan makanan laut yang berlebihan. Orang yang tinggal berhampiran pantai boleh menanam badan dalam pasir laut. Bagi mereka yang tinggal di bandar, garam kasar digoreng dan didemahkan di tempat sakit ketika garam masih panas.

5.Merawat cirit-birit. Direa boleh diubat dengan meminum air yang dicampur sedikit garam.

6.Merawat mabuk perjalanan. Sesetengah orang akan mengalami mabuk perjalanan setelah melepasi tempoh tertentu. Untuk merawat mabuk perjalanan, garam dicampur madu dan air dan diminum sebelum memulakan permusafiran.

7.Garam diguna untuk merawat kegatalan. Air yang dicampur garam disapukan pada kulit yang gatal.

8.Menambah imuniti badan akibat perubahan hawa/angin. Hal ini berlaku di sesetengah tempat di negeri Arab. Misalnya pelajar Malaysia yang berkunjung ke Arab akan mengalami alahan terhadap hawa/angin tempat baharu. Air garam diminum sebagai ubatnya.

9.Menghilangkan penat kerana kerja berat. Amalan orang-orang Melayu tradisional yang bertani, bersawah atau bertukang ialah meminum air sejuk yang dicampur garam.

10.Mengelak sihir/gangguan jin bagi mereka yang bermalam di hutan. Garam adalah sumpahan jin. Garam yang dijampi dengan Al-Fatihah (sekali) dan ayat al-Kursi (ayat 255 surah al-Baqarah – 7 kali) ditabur di sekeliling khemah.

11.Mengelak gangguan syaitan/jin kepada bayi. Ada ketikanya bayi menangis waktu malam disebabkan dia nampak syaitan, bukan kerana lapar. Untuk mengatasi masalah ini, garam dicampur dengan bawang merah, bawang putih dan lada hitam. Campuran itu diletak dalam gelas/cawan/bekas yang terbuka. Bekas itu diletakkan di bahagian kepala bayi.

12.Mengelak panahan iblis bagi lelaki yang beristeri kerana bekerja di kawasan hutan. Petua Melayu tradisional apabila ke hutan mereka akan terserempak dengan jin yang menjelma sebagai perempuan bogel di sungai. Akibatnya mereka teringat-ingat kepada jelmaan makhluk itu sehingga mengabaikan isterinya. Cara mengatasinya sama seperti yang dinyatakan dalam nota 10.

13.Mengubat orang yang diganggu jin. Bagi orang dewasa yang dikhianati (disihir) cara mengubatnya ialah dengan meletakkan garam yang dijampi dengan al-Fatihah di perdu lidah. Perdu lidah ialah bahagian bawah lidah yang apabila diangkat akan nampak urat hijau lidah.

p/s : i got this from my friend via email..

Six ways to get motivated

THE TOP SIX WAYS TO STAY MOTIVATED

Extracted from article by Chris Widener on the internet

Here are six tips to stay motivated:

GET MOTIVATED EVERY DAY

Zig Ziglar was once confronted about being a "motivational speaker." The guy said to him, "You guys come and get people hyped up and then you leave and the motivation goes away. It doesn’t last, and then you have to get motivated again." Zig reminded the gentleman that baths are the same way but we think it is a good idea to take a bath every day!

It is true that motivation doesn’t last. We have to renew it each and every day. That is okay. It doesn’t make motivation a bad thing. We simply have to realize that if we want to stay motivated over the long term, it is something we will have to apply to ourselves each and every day.

HAVE A VISION FOR YOUR LIFE

The root word of motivation is "motive." The definition of motive is, "A reason to act." This is the cognitive or rational side of motivation. It is your vision. You have to have a vision that is big enough to motivate you. If you are making $50,000 a year, it isn’t going to motivate you to set your goal at $52,000 a year. You just won’t get motivated for that because the reward isn’t enough. Maybe $70,000 a year would work for you. Set out a vision and a strategy for getting there. Have a plan and work the plan.

FUEL YOUR PASSION

Much of motivation is emotional. I don’t know quite how it works but I do know THAT it works. Emotion is a powerful force in getting us going. Passion is an emotion, so fuel your passion. "Well, I like to work on logic," you may say. Great, now work on your passion. Set yourself on a course to have a consuming desire for your goal, whatever it is. Do whatever you can to feel the emotion and use it to your advantage!

WORK HARD ENOUGH TO GET RESULTS

You can build on your motivation by getting results. The harder you work, the more results you will get and the more results you get, the more you will be motivated to get more. These things all build on one another. If you want to lose weight, then lose the first few pounds. When the belt moves to the next notch you will get fired up to get it to the notch beyond that!

PUT GOOD MATERIALS INTO YOUR MIND

I can’t say this enough - listen to tapes. I still listen to tapes regularly. I buy tapes from other speakers and I learn and grow. Their successes motivate me to get my own successes! Read good books. Read books that teach you new ideas and skills. Read books that tell the stories of successful people. Buy them, read them, and get motivated! Buy great music and listen to it. I just did a spinning class at the club today. Whenever a good song came on, I was actually able to get motivated to ride faster! It gets you going and motivates you!

RIDE THE MOMENTUM WHEN IT COMES

Sometimes you will just be clicking and sometimes you won’t. That is okay. It is the cycle of life. When you aren’t clicking, plug away. When you are clicking, pour it on because momentum will help you get larger gains in a shorter period of time with less energy. That is the Momentum Equation! When you are feeling good about how your work is going, ride the momentum and get as much out of it as you can!

SUMMARY OF TOP SIX WAYS TO STAY MOTIVATED:

• Get motivated every day.
• Have a vision for your life.
• Fuel your passion.
• Work hard enough to get results.
• Put good materials into your mind.
• Ride the momentum when it comes.

These are simple principles that when you put them to work regularly, will change your life by keeping you motivated all the time! Get going!

*****as usual..i got this article from my dad..and i want to share this with you...

3 most powerful principles

The Three Most Powerful Principles I Have Learned from Millionaires

By Dr. Robert Anthony
Creator of Rich Mind Life Strategy

Over the years I have had the privilege to spend time with some very financially and spiritually enlightened people.

As a result, my personal life and the way I do business has changed...

In listening to these people talk and observing how they handle their personal and business lives, three very distinct and powerful traits came to my attention.

I believe if all these three traits were applied to your life, they would make such a dramatic change, that in a short time all the things you desire would show up in your life...including as much money as you desire.

I don't say that lightly, I really have been influenced by these three Spiritual Principles and their power. I believe – no, I KNOW, you will be too, if you apply them in your life.

Principle Number 1: They “KNOW” They Can Create Whatever They Desire...

Spiritual Millionaires choose what they want instead of focusing on what they don’t want. They never spend time thinking about what is “missing” from their life. Rather, they make a choice about what they want in their life.

Spiritual Millionaires have 100% confidence in the Law of Attraction. The have no doubt about their ability to create what they desire.

They don’t “believe” it - they KNOW it...

There is a world of difference between “believing” and “knowing”. When you “know” the truth about anything, there is no doubt.

You have 100% confidence...

Knowing is about trusting that you are the only one who knows what is right for you, that you are capable of handling whatever comes to you, and that you are clear on your intentions or the outcome you choose to create.

I've seen the power of being absolutely clear on my intentions for my life: They come true!

They have for me, and I watched the Spiritual Millionaires as their intentions came to reality for them as well.

Being clear on your intentions is a good first step.

However, a more powerful and life-changing step is trusting that those intentions are ALREADY a reality on the non-physical plane of consciousness, and that they must manifest in your physical reality if you do not hold any opposing thoughts.

And then, "Act As If..." your intentions are reality, now.

Not dishonestly, or outside of your true beliefs. But, to feel it, sense it, imagine how it’s going to "show up" in various situations once it manifests in your life.

Principle Number 2: They Take Action...

As I observed Spiritual Millionaires, I noticed that they didn't hesitate to move on their ideas and respond to situations that called for action in order to keep the momentum going.

Do you get the power of what this Principle is about?

If you're sitting waiting for something to happen, doing other "important" tasks rather than those that you know will produce the results you desire , you are wasting time and you are no closer to your desire.

Trust me on this one, I've waited for so many things in my life that never showed up!

Acting on your desire is habit that you desperately need to cultivate in order to get to where you want to be... Waiting will not do it...

I watched these Spiritual Millionaires, one after another, take immediate action, not out of fear or to ‘force’ things to happen, but because the next action they took brought them one step closer to their desire.

And, I saw tremendous results come into their lives... They don’t take unnecessary action. Instead, they use the leverage of energy, the same leverage of energy that creates everything in the universe.

I have seen these Spiritual Millionaires step into spaces of discomfort, and have courage to take action. It was also evident that they were as scared to take those steps as you and I are when we're faced with the choice of moving out of our comfort zone.

THE MESSAGE IS...

It's time to "Get Moving”, trust your intuition, your sense of knowing what the next step is, and take action...

We often wait for the "feeling to be right" first, before we take the action we know will bring us satisfaction. That's all back-to-front...

The feelings of satisfaction only comes from ACCOMPLISHMENT, not from pondering and procrastinating. (You knew that one, too, didn't you...)

Never try to force things to happen because you are afraid of what will happen if you don’t take a certain action. Instead, choose ‘inspired action’ that moves you toward what you want, not away from what you don’t want.

Acting on your intentions without trying to force things to happen will magnetize your desires by attracting people, places and opportunities into your into reality that you never would have even seen if you hadn't done so.

Principle Number 3: They Maintain an "Attitude of Gratitude...

Spiritual Millionaires maintain an “attitude of gratitude”...

Gratitude does not need explanation – you know how to be grateful. But did you know that gratitude brings you more of what you appreciate? Gratitude speeds along the manifestation of your desires.

When you find things that you appreciate and you use them as your point of focus, your world has to get better in every area of your life. Spiritual Millionaires know that every time they flood their mind with appreciation or gratitude they attract more of what they desire.

Look around you right now. What can you be grateful for? Make a list. Get into the authentic feeling of true gratitude...

Find something, anything, to be grateful for right now. When you are grateful, you're in a high energy vibration that will attract more things to be grateful for and more good things will come to you magically, drawn in by your feelings of gratitude.

Dr. Robert Anthony is the author of 15 books including the million copy best sellers "The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self Confidence" and "Advanced Formula for Total Success". His latest creation is the comprehensive life-changing program, Rich Mind Life Strategy.

Learn how to create a continual flow of money and riches in your life without struggle...

note: i got this article from my dad, while he got this article from a source on the internet..